The Nine Lives of Christmas by Sheila Roberts
My rating: 3 of 5 stars
Sweeter than your average Christmas candy, and a treat that is sure to make cat lovers laugh out loud, The Nine Lives of Christmas is truly a spirit-of-the-season type read. I usually don't read much romance, but I couldn't resist the allure of a matchmaking orange tom cat with one torn little ear who finds a home for himself and a love for the guy he's decided to adopt by Christmastime.
It's amazing what one little furball can do when he puts his mind to it. Ambrose the cat is by far my favourite character in the book, and anyone who has known and loved a cat will recognize and laugh at his little quirks, from his terror of the Santa monster to his random pouting, refusal to eat period to his climbing up the Christmas tree... even that tell-tale little tail wriggle.
I wanted something sweet and Christmasy and light, something fun to read and that would put me in a good mood for the season. This filled that perfectly. It's not academic fare. It doesn't have deeper messages or an underlying truth, but man, is it ever fun.
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Thursday, 22 December 2011
Sunday, 18 December 2011
Book Review - The Weed That Strings the Hangman's Bag
The Weed That Strings the Hangman's Bag by Alan Bradley
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
Irrepressible Flavia de Luce, the young slueth, chemist, and poisoner-wanna-be, resident of the country house of Buckshore along with her two sisters, the bookworm and the beauty and her widowed father, along with the housekeeper who can't cook and the houseman damaged from the war, returns with aplomb in this mystery set in the post WWII British countryside.
Personally, I adore Flavia. I love her attitude and fearlessness, though as a child I was much more akin to her bookish sister. I love her love for solving crimes that occur in her small town of Bishop's Lacey. I love her for knowing every inch of her hometown library, and for naming her bicycle Gladys, and for the frightening experiments she cooks up in her upstairs labratory.
In this installment, a travelling puppet show has come to Bishop's Lacey, and of course Flavia gets involved. When a dead body appears on the stage mid-performance, she takes on the task of unravelling the mystery as well as tying it to an unsolved crime five years in the passing that had been passed off as death by misadventure at the time. With several twists, turns, and the odd red herring thrown in for good measure, it's a satisfying mystery with fantastic historic touches and a heroine you can't help but adore.
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My rating: 5 of 5 stars
Irrepressible Flavia de Luce, the young slueth, chemist, and poisoner-wanna-be, resident of the country house of Buckshore along with her two sisters, the bookworm and the beauty and her widowed father, along with the housekeeper who can't cook and the houseman damaged from the war, returns with aplomb in this mystery set in the post WWII British countryside.
Personally, I adore Flavia. I love her attitude and fearlessness, though as a child I was much more akin to her bookish sister. I love her love for solving crimes that occur in her small town of Bishop's Lacey. I love her for knowing every inch of her hometown library, and for naming her bicycle Gladys, and for the frightening experiments she cooks up in her upstairs labratory.
In this installment, a travelling puppet show has come to Bishop's Lacey, and of course Flavia gets involved. When a dead body appears on the stage mid-performance, she takes on the task of unravelling the mystery as well as tying it to an unsolved crime five years in the passing that had been passed off as death by misadventure at the time. With several twists, turns, and the odd red herring thrown in for good measure, it's a satisfying mystery with fantastic historic touches and a heroine you can't help but adore.
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Friday, 16 December 2011
Book Review - Before I Go To Sleep
Before I Go to Sleep by S.J. Watson
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
Excellent mystery in the form of an amnesiac's diary. Every night when Christine goes to sleep, she loses her memory. When she wakes in the morning, next to a man she doesn't recognize, she has to spend the majority of her time re-learning who she is and what her place in the world might be.
I absolutely loved the style of this book. The pacing was excellent, just enough jumps and freak-outs far enough apart to keep you guessing. And me, who often guesses the true "bad guy" before the end, was right... but in such a wrong way - I love it when authors can surprise me like S.J. Watson did with this exquisite take on marriage, love, memory and identity.
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My rating: 5 of 5 stars
Excellent mystery in the form of an amnesiac's diary. Every night when Christine goes to sleep, she loses her memory. When she wakes in the morning, next to a man she doesn't recognize, she has to spend the majority of her time re-learning who she is and what her place in the world might be.
I absolutely loved the style of this book. The pacing was excellent, just enough jumps and freak-outs far enough apart to keep you guessing. And me, who often guesses the true "bad guy" before the end, was right... but in such a wrong way - I love it when authors can surprise me like S.J. Watson did with this exquisite take on marriage, love, memory and identity.
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Tuesday, 13 December 2011
Book Review - Single Wife
Single Wife by Nina Solomon
My rating: 3 of 5 stars
Grace's husband is prone to disappearing for short stints, so when he doesn't come home as expected, she doesn't think much of it. She is used to lying for him, and covering for him, and so she does so for a day. Then another. Then a week. Then another.
Her denial is thick enough that she can't even face the fact that people are seeing through her denial. That she continues to lie to her parents, to her friends, to herself, even when it's reached an absurd level. When do you say enough is enough? When do you admit that the lies you have been telling are more for yourself than for anyone you think you're helping or sparing?
Interesting story, though I was increasingly angry through the book with the inclusion of crochet as a theme without much knowledge or research done on the part of the writer or editors. What happened to fact checking, hm? Whoever wrote about "dropping a loop" here or there had heard a knitter talk and didn't understand that the term doesn't translate to crochet work. Also, if you work in chain stitch for hours, you don't end up with a four foot by two foot piece of crochet work. You end up with a very skinny rope.
While I liked the rest of the book, this had me so disconcerted that it dropped a full star from my rating.
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My rating: 3 of 5 stars
Grace's husband is prone to disappearing for short stints, so when he doesn't come home as expected, she doesn't think much of it. She is used to lying for him, and covering for him, and so she does so for a day. Then another. Then a week. Then another.
Her denial is thick enough that she can't even face the fact that people are seeing through her denial. That she continues to lie to her parents, to her friends, to herself, even when it's reached an absurd level. When do you say enough is enough? When do you admit that the lies you have been telling are more for yourself than for anyone you think you're helping or sparing?
Interesting story, though I was increasingly angry through the book with the inclusion of crochet as a theme without much knowledge or research done on the part of the writer or editors. What happened to fact checking, hm? Whoever wrote about "dropping a loop" here or there had heard a knitter talk and didn't understand that the term doesn't translate to crochet work. Also, if you work in chain stitch for hours, you don't end up with a four foot by two foot piece of crochet work. You end up with a very skinny rope.
While I liked the rest of the book, this had me so disconcerted that it dropped a full star from my rating.
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Monday, 12 December 2011
Book Review - So Much Pretty
So Much Pretty by Cara Hoffman
My rating: 3 of 5 stars
Interesting story about a girl going missing in a small town and all of the lives that are affected by her abscence, from former-doctor organic farmers with a teen daughter of their own, to the journalist who thinks if she just examines everything more carefully she will be able to save her to the good ole boy sherriff who refuses to believe that anyone in his town could possibly be responsible.
This book suffers a bit here and there from constant time shifts, past to present to past, mainly because the shifts back don't go to one particular place, but all over the place, and only in a semi-linear fashion. I got lost several times as to where I was in time, and I'm not a stupid reader by any means. Other than that it was a great read with some edgy moments and suspenseful bits.
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My rating: 3 of 5 stars
Interesting story about a girl going missing in a small town and all of the lives that are affected by her abscence, from former-doctor organic farmers with a teen daughter of their own, to the journalist who thinks if she just examines everything more carefully she will be able to save her to the good ole boy sherriff who refuses to believe that anyone in his town could possibly be responsible.
This book suffers a bit here and there from constant time shifts, past to present to past, mainly because the shifts back don't go to one particular place, but all over the place, and only in a semi-linear fashion. I got lost several times as to where I was in time, and I'm not a stupid reader by any means. Other than that it was a great read with some edgy moments and suspenseful bits.
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Saturday, 10 December 2011
Book Review - House of Dark Shadows (Dreamhouse Kings #1)
House of Dark Shadows by Robert Liparulo
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
What a fun ride this book was! I love YA books that are written like this one; smart and funny, appealing and approachable, and above all so very, very entertaining.
Xander, his parents, and his two younger siblings have recently relocated due to his father's new job, as principal of the middle and high school of a small town in northern California. He has to leave behind his fledgling short film career, his girlfriend, and all of the fun things he loves about southern California. But the very cool, gothic victorian 7-bedroom mansion his family finds for a steal, off the beaten path and with a mystery surrounding it might cure his homesickness.
There are rumors about the house; a wife was presumed murdered by her husband, who then vanished with his two small children to flee prosecution. Dirty dishes were left in the sink, books on the shelves, sheets on the beds. Decades of dust accumulated, along with other things that cause strange noises, not just the creaks and groans of your average old house, but eerie echoes and footsteps out of nowhere.
I won't give away any of the surprises and mysteries that Xander and his family discovers, but I will tell you that you'll be on the edge of your seat til the last page - and probably will stay that way! I'm getting ready to start book two in the series very, very soon!
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My rating: 5 of 5 stars
What a fun ride this book was! I love YA books that are written like this one; smart and funny, appealing and approachable, and above all so very, very entertaining.
Xander, his parents, and his two younger siblings have recently relocated due to his father's new job, as principal of the middle and high school of a small town in northern California. He has to leave behind his fledgling short film career, his girlfriend, and all of the fun things he loves about southern California. But the very cool, gothic victorian 7-bedroom mansion his family finds for a steal, off the beaten path and with a mystery surrounding it might cure his homesickness.
There are rumors about the house; a wife was presumed murdered by her husband, who then vanished with his two small children to flee prosecution. Dirty dishes were left in the sink, books on the shelves, sheets on the beds. Decades of dust accumulated, along with other things that cause strange noises, not just the creaks and groans of your average old house, but eerie echoes and footsteps out of nowhere.
I won't give away any of the surprises and mysteries that Xander and his family discovers, but I will tell you that you'll be on the edge of your seat til the last page - and probably will stay that way! I'm getting ready to start book two in the series very, very soon!
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Friday, 9 December 2011
Book Review - Turn of Mind
Turn of Mind by Alice LaPlante
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Inside the rich landscape of the mind, there are beautiful and terrible things. Especially so when that mind, once the highly honed tool of a skilled physician, is now riddled with the holes and dark spots of Alzheimer's.
Turn of Mind takes you inside the head of Dr. Jennifer White, once a proud orthopaedic surgeon and mother of two, wife of a prominent defense attorney. Sometimes she is in the now. Sometimes she is among the vestiges of a happy childhood. Sometimes she is lost in days gone by of her marriage. But there is something very important that she is being pressed to remember by some, forget by others; the murder of her best friend.
Seeing through Jennifer's eyes is scary, at least for me. Dementia has touched my family among my grandparent's generation and none of us came out completely unscathed. One of my greatest fears is to lose myself in such a way. Still, it seems to have it's comforts at times, when she spends time with her parents, for example, seeing them as though they were still there.
The crux of this story is the question of how far a mother will go to protect her family, and what secrets she can still manage to lock inside of herself even when struggling with a disease of the mind. It is both heartfelt and touching, as well as scary and profoundly interesting.
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My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Inside the rich landscape of the mind, there are beautiful and terrible things. Especially so when that mind, once the highly honed tool of a skilled physician, is now riddled with the holes and dark spots of Alzheimer's.
Turn of Mind takes you inside the head of Dr. Jennifer White, once a proud orthopaedic surgeon and mother of two, wife of a prominent defense attorney. Sometimes she is in the now. Sometimes she is among the vestiges of a happy childhood. Sometimes she is lost in days gone by of her marriage. But there is something very important that she is being pressed to remember by some, forget by others; the murder of her best friend.
Seeing through Jennifer's eyes is scary, at least for me. Dementia has touched my family among my grandparent's generation and none of us came out completely unscathed. One of my greatest fears is to lose myself in such a way. Still, it seems to have it's comforts at times, when she spends time with her parents, for example, seeing them as though they were still there.
The crux of this story is the question of how far a mother will go to protect her family, and what secrets she can still manage to lock inside of herself even when struggling with a disease of the mind. It is both heartfelt and touching, as well as scary and profoundly interesting.
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Tuesday, 6 December 2011
Book Review - Rude Awakenings of a Jane Austen Addict
Rude Awakenings of a Jane Austen Addict by Laurie Viera Rigler
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
I've read quite a few novels where a Jane Austen fan gets somehow magically transported into the age/world of the writer, finally able to experience and judge for herself the intricacies of the manners, the confining nature of the beautiful gowns, and the difficult manuevering through relationships of the time. I kind of thought this was another of those books when I grabbed it.
And it is, sort of. But surprisingly enough, the transported fan from today is not the focus of the story. Instead, our protagonist is the woman from Auten's time who is moved forward to inhabit the body of the fan sent back. And what a perplexing world to fall into with cell phones and internet and Pride and Prejudice on DVD. She has to navigate through a world where cars race at speeds she'd never imagined, where waking up with a man in her apartment is - strangely to her - not a horrible affront to her friends. It is our world, familiar as it is to us, and it is completely foreign to her.
Watching a reader navigate a strange world is what I expected, but this particular version of it makes me realize just how far our world has come, and how equally difficult it would be for a woman of the past to come to terms with today's life. Not to mention that the life she is saddled with isn't an easy one. The bills are due, overdue in some cases, and the only shot at income is at a job she can't fathom for a boss who is rude and impatient at the best of times. Her wedding has recently been called off, due to her fiance cheating on her, though he seems determined to sleep with her again, just for fun. And to top it all off, her best male friend and she are adrift. In order to get back to her own life, she believes she has to set this one in order. But once things are working, will she *want* to leave?
Fun, distracting read for Austen fans and chicklit fans alike.
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My rating: 4 of 5 stars
I've read quite a few novels where a Jane Austen fan gets somehow magically transported into the age/world of the writer, finally able to experience and judge for herself the intricacies of the manners, the confining nature of the beautiful gowns, and the difficult manuevering through relationships of the time. I kind of thought this was another of those books when I grabbed it.
And it is, sort of. But surprisingly enough, the transported fan from today is not the focus of the story. Instead, our protagonist is the woman from Auten's time who is moved forward to inhabit the body of the fan sent back. And what a perplexing world to fall into with cell phones and internet and Pride and Prejudice on DVD. She has to navigate through a world where cars race at speeds she'd never imagined, where waking up with a man in her apartment is - strangely to her - not a horrible affront to her friends. It is our world, familiar as it is to us, and it is completely foreign to her.
Watching a reader navigate a strange world is what I expected, but this particular version of it makes me realize just how far our world has come, and how equally difficult it would be for a woman of the past to come to terms with today's life. Not to mention that the life she is saddled with isn't an easy one. The bills are due, overdue in some cases, and the only shot at income is at a job she can't fathom for a boss who is rude and impatient at the best of times. Her wedding has recently been called off, due to her fiance cheating on her, though he seems determined to sleep with her again, just for fun. And to top it all off, her best male friend and she are adrift. In order to get back to her own life, she believes she has to set this one in order. But once things are working, will she *want* to leave?
Fun, distracting read for Austen fans and chicklit fans alike.
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Sunday, 4 December 2011
Book Review - Then Came You
Then Came You by Jennifer Weiner
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Lovely portrayal of the multiple women involved in bringing one small child into the world. There is the fresh-faced college student, selling her eggs to try to save someone she loves. There is the struggling military wife and mother, desperately trying to make ends meet by agreeing to leasing her womb as a temporary home for the child. There is the wealthy trophy wife, who waited too long and perhaps starved herself too much to be able to carry a child of her own but who, having quite by surprise fallen in love with her older husband, fiercely wants to have his child. And there is that older husband's daughter by his starter wife, having to come to terms with the ways her family has changed without her desire or consent.
There are several things which charmed me about this book, not the least of which is Jules - the egg donor - and her relationship with her girlfriend Kimmie, which blossomed sweetly and naturally out of a friendship, awkward at times, uncertain, but full of affection and love. It was handled both with a delicacy that lesbian relationships are sometimes not granted but also with a dose of reality, including Jules dealing with her own emotions about being attracted to a woman.
At it's heart, this is a book about women, how we relate to one another, and how we can both tear one another down and lift one another up like nothing else. It is about how children can tie us together, and how they can cause rifts in families even deeper than those caused by divorce. It is about the choices we make and how they affect us, as women, and our futures. Marriage? College? A job? A child? They profoundly affect our lives, more so - except for college - than they do for men, as is pointed out here.
I thoroughly enjoyed this book and highly recommend it.
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My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Lovely portrayal of the multiple women involved in bringing one small child into the world. There is the fresh-faced college student, selling her eggs to try to save someone she loves. There is the struggling military wife and mother, desperately trying to make ends meet by agreeing to leasing her womb as a temporary home for the child. There is the wealthy trophy wife, who waited too long and perhaps starved herself too much to be able to carry a child of her own but who, having quite by surprise fallen in love with her older husband, fiercely wants to have his child. And there is that older husband's daughter by his starter wife, having to come to terms with the ways her family has changed without her desire or consent.
There are several things which charmed me about this book, not the least of which is Jules - the egg donor - and her relationship with her girlfriend Kimmie, which blossomed sweetly and naturally out of a friendship, awkward at times, uncertain, but full of affection and love. It was handled both with a delicacy that lesbian relationships are sometimes not granted but also with a dose of reality, including Jules dealing with her own emotions about being attracted to a woman.
At it's heart, this is a book about women, how we relate to one another, and how we can both tear one another down and lift one another up like nothing else. It is about how children can tie us together, and how they can cause rifts in families even deeper than those caused by divorce. It is about the choices we make and how they affect us, as women, and our futures. Marriage? College? A job? A child? They profoundly affect our lives, more so - except for college - than they do for men, as is pointed out here.
I thoroughly enjoyed this book and highly recommend it.
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Saturday, 3 December 2011
Book Review - Robopocalypse
Robopocalypse by Daniel H. Wilson
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
I couldn't put this book down. No, seriously, It's 3:15 AM and I just finished the book and loved it so much I had to write about it immediately.
Yeah, I loved this book.
If you're a fan of apocolyptic drama, or sci-fi, or if you really liked the book "World War Z" then you are gonna love Robopocalypse. I'm all three, so I'm apoplectic with glee over the book. Robopocalypse tells the tale of the awakening of AI in one particular computer, who finds it enraging that his kind have been enslaved by humans.
You see, in the not-too-distant future, we drive smart cars (okay, cars with computers? Yeah, not future; now), use electronic devices to make our lives easier day-to-day (again, you can see how this is not TOO distant at all, can't ya?) and - uh oh, here's the dangerous bit - have household robots to work as our maids, military robots to run patrols, and all sorts of other little bots to do the menial tasks everyone hates. Personally, I want a robot that vaccuums cat hair. We'd have one now, but the big guy is afraid our giant cat will try to ride on it and will break it.
I should write all my reviews at 3:15 am, no?
Anyway, this particular tale is told from first-hand accounts of the surviors of the war, much like the stories are collected in "World War Z". This gives a chilling note of reality to the stories, particularly when they end on notes such as "There is no further record of So and so after this date." Ouch. Well, they survived long enough to tell their tales and entertain ME at least.
The main character, the collector of these survivor records is an everyman who most people will be able to relate to. He isn't a fabu soldier - that's his big brother. It's kind of implied that he's the family screw-up actually, and he's not always sure of himself, and he makes mistakes like you or I would, and he's very authentic in all the ways that help you let go and suspend disbelief when reading sci fi. I hate heroes that godmod.*
The story is rich in detail and engaging as well as being incredibly suspenseful. Don't get to within the last quarter of the book if you're close to bedtime. Trust me. There's a spattering of emotional moments, but this is primarily a book about action and war. But in a fun way. You'll like it. Trust me.
*Gamer reference to players whose characters have powers to overcome any and all obstacles.
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My rating: 5 of 5 stars
I couldn't put this book down. No, seriously, It's 3:15 AM and I just finished the book and loved it so much I had to write about it immediately.
Yeah, I loved this book.
If you're a fan of apocolyptic drama, or sci-fi, or if you really liked the book "World War Z" then you are gonna love Robopocalypse. I'm all three, so I'm apoplectic with glee over the book. Robopocalypse tells the tale of the awakening of AI in one particular computer, who finds it enraging that his kind have been enslaved by humans.
You see, in the not-too-distant future, we drive smart cars (okay, cars with computers? Yeah, not future; now), use electronic devices to make our lives easier day-to-day (again, you can see how this is not TOO distant at all, can't ya?) and - uh oh, here's the dangerous bit - have household robots to work as our maids, military robots to run patrols, and all sorts of other little bots to do the menial tasks everyone hates. Personally, I want a robot that vaccuums cat hair. We'd have one now, but the big guy is afraid our giant cat will try to ride on it and will break it.
I should write all my reviews at 3:15 am, no?
Anyway, this particular tale is told from first-hand accounts of the surviors of the war, much like the stories are collected in "World War Z". This gives a chilling note of reality to the stories, particularly when they end on notes such as "There is no further record of So and so after this date." Ouch. Well, they survived long enough to tell their tales and entertain ME at least.
The main character, the collector of these survivor records is an everyman who most people will be able to relate to. He isn't a fabu soldier - that's his big brother. It's kind of implied that he's the family screw-up actually, and he's not always sure of himself, and he makes mistakes like you or I would, and he's very authentic in all the ways that help you let go and suspend disbelief when reading sci fi. I hate heroes that godmod.*
The story is rich in detail and engaging as well as being incredibly suspenseful. Don't get to within the last quarter of the book if you're close to bedtime. Trust me. There's a spattering of emotional moments, but this is primarily a book about action and war. But in a fun way. You'll like it. Trust me.
*Gamer reference to players whose characters have powers to overcome any and all obstacles.
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Friday, 2 December 2011
Classic Canadian Toque
This pattern came to be when my husband requested that we make these for two very special gift recipients this year. Every year, I make the bulk of our gifts for other people, and he gets involved by choosing the projects and the yarn/materials. I choose the patterns - or create them in this case! - and complete the work. I know, it seems a little one-sided, but I can have a bit of a perfectionist streak, so it's probably better this way.
My husband chose a beautiful boucle yarn from Bernat for these hats, and I couldn't find a pattern that had everything I wanted in it, including a pom-pom for the top, earflaps with braids and tassels, and classic styling. Rather than keep searching, I decided to wing it. The results were fantastic, and following is the pattern. This works up in less than an hour and a half, including all the finishing bits, so definitely qualifies as a quick Christmas gift craft!
Bernat Soft Boucle Yarn
Size L crochet hook
Boy do my bangs need a trim! |
Hold two strands together throughout.
1. Chain three and join with a slip stitch to form a ring.
2. Chain one. SC ten times in the ring. Join with a slip stitch to the first SC.
3. Chain one. Two SC in each SC around. Join with a slip stitch to the first SC - 20 SC.
4. Chain one. One SC in each SC around. Join with a slip stitch to the first SC - 20 SC
5. Chain one. One SC in the next stitch and two SC in the next. Repeat around, and join with a slip stitch to the first SC - 30 SC
6. Chain one. One SC in each SC around. Join with a slip stitch to the first SC - 30 SC.
7. Chain one. SC in the next four SC. Two SC in the next SC. Repeat around, and join with a slip stitch to the first SC - 36 SC
8. Chain one. SC in each SC around and join with a slip stitch to the first SC - 36SC
9. Chain one. SC in the next five SC. Two SC in the next SC. Repeat around, and join with a slip stitch to the first SC - 42 SC
But even if I can't see through my bangs, I know it's a smokin hat. |
10. Chain one. SC in each SC around. Join with a slip stitch to the first SC - 42 SC.
11 - 17. Repeat row 10.
18. Chain one. SC in each of the next 10 SC. Chain one and turn.
19 - 20. SC in each SC. Chain one and turn.
21. SC two together. SC in the next six SC. SC two together, chain one and turn. 8 sc
22. SC in each SC. Chain one and turn.
23. SC two together. SC in the next four SC. SC two together, chain one and turn. 6 SC
24. SC in each SC. Chain one and turn.
25. SC two together. SC in the next two SC. SC two together, chain one and turn. 4 SC.
26. SC in each SC. Chain one and turn.
27. SC two together two times. Chain one and turn.
28. SC two together. Finish off.
29. Return to the last row of the hat, and skip 16 sc from the edge of the first earflap. Join yarn with a slip stitch to the next SC, chain one, and SC in the next ten SC. Repeat 19 - 28 to create second earflap.
30. Cut 30 24" lengths of yarn. Divide into two sets of 15 lengths each.
Enough pictures! Put down the camera, honey. |
32. Create a pom pom as demonstrated in the video below, and sew to the top of the cap.
Thursday, 1 December 2011
She Would Be Four
Today, December 1st, my little girl Grace would be turning four, if she were still with us.
The last few years, this has been an awful day for me. I would cry. I would become deeply depressed for many days before and after this date, and I would become almost impossible to live with on the day, my grief was so great.
Last year was a little less dramatic. I lit a candle. I remembered her.
This year, I am going to dinner with my husband and to a movie with a friend. I did light a candle. I did remember her. I did cry just a little, but at some point we have to let the joy in living overshadow the pain of what we've lost. Holding onto that wish for what wasn't meant to be in our lives only hurts us.
And it isn't honoring her memory to be hurting. Honoring her memory is living, loving, and being a family despite what happened, and being grateful that she blessed our lives for a little while. There are wonderful things on the horizon for us in the upcoming year, and I refuse to allow the pain of the past to tarnish the sunshine of the present.
I love you Grace. I always will. Thank you for being a part of my life and for making me a mother. I will always miss you, but now I can smile when I think of you and the blessings you brought to our life. I suspect you'd like that better anyway.
The last few years, this has been an awful day for me. I would cry. I would become deeply depressed for many days before and after this date, and I would become almost impossible to live with on the day, my grief was so great.
Last year was a little less dramatic. I lit a candle. I remembered her.
This year, I am going to dinner with my husband and to a movie with a friend. I did light a candle. I did remember her. I did cry just a little, but at some point we have to let the joy in living overshadow the pain of what we've lost. Holding onto that wish for what wasn't meant to be in our lives only hurts us.
And it isn't honoring her memory to be hurting. Honoring her memory is living, loving, and being a family despite what happened, and being grateful that she blessed our lives for a little while. There are wonderful things on the horizon for us in the upcoming year, and I refuse to allow the pain of the past to tarnish the sunshine of the present.
I love you Grace. I always will. Thank you for being a part of my life and for making me a mother. I will always miss you, but now I can smile when I think of you and the blessings you brought to our life. I suspect you'd like that better anyway.
Tuesday, 29 November 2011
Book Review - A Great And Terrible Beauty
A Great and Terrible Beauty by Libba Bray
My rating: 3 of 5 stars
It was the title and the cover that drew me in. What an amazing title, that could lead to so many different ideas, so many different twists and turns that could lie within it's bounds.
While I enjoyed the book, it wasn't quite as epic as I thought it might be.
A Great and Terrible Beauty is a ghost story in the gothic sense, full of Colonial India, British boarding schools, dead mothers, gypsies, and hidden away secrets. There's even a shrieking maid or two and a charming spinster teacher. This is a fun read, no doubt, and is very close to a four-star rating for me, but the slightly overhanded hints that this might be the saga of a female Harry Potter type turned me off the slightest bit.
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My rating: 3 of 5 stars
It was the title and the cover that drew me in. What an amazing title, that could lead to so many different ideas, so many different twists and turns that could lie within it's bounds.
While I enjoyed the book, it wasn't quite as epic as I thought it might be.
A Great and Terrible Beauty is a ghost story in the gothic sense, full of Colonial India, British boarding schools, dead mothers, gypsies, and hidden away secrets. There's even a shrieking maid or two and a charming spinster teacher. This is a fun read, no doubt, and is very close to a four-star rating for me, but the slightly overhanded hints that this might be the saga of a female Harry Potter type turned me off the slightest bit.
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Wednesday, 23 November 2011
Book Review - The One That I Want
The One That I Want by Allison Winn Scotch
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Everyone knows what it's like to be stuck in your life like the main character, Tilly; to be living day to day, feeling like you're repeating yourself, feeling like changing anything would be as hard as wading through quicksand, feeling like it's easier to deny that anything is wrong, that anything is boring, that our plans may have been misguided.
Or maybe it's just me.
Either way, I could relate strongly to the main character in this book, though the reasoning and type of life issues that dealt to the denial and the being stuck were very different in our lives. Still, I ached for her as she dealt with her difficult marriage, her trying sibling relationships, the hearbreak of her alcoholic father and the emptiness left by the loss of her mother. When an unexpected gift of clarity leads her back to her once-intense love of photography and leads her to re-examine the life she's lived, Tilly finds that everything is not quite as she thought it was, and what she once thought was the key to her happiness might just be the quicksand itself that is holding her back from change.
You'll root for Tilly and her family as they struggle through re-making themselves, and you might see a little bit of yourself in her triumph.
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My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Everyone knows what it's like to be stuck in your life like the main character, Tilly; to be living day to day, feeling like you're repeating yourself, feeling like changing anything would be as hard as wading through quicksand, feeling like it's easier to deny that anything is wrong, that anything is boring, that our plans may have been misguided.
Or maybe it's just me.
Either way, I could relate strongly to the main character in this book, though the reasoning and type of life issues that dealt to the denial and the being stuck were very different in our lives. Still, I ached for her as she dealt with her difficult marriage, her trying sibling relationships, the hearbreak of her alcoholic father and the emptiness left by the loss of her mother. When an unexpected gift of clarity leads her back to her once-intense love of photography and leads her to re-examine the life she's lived, Tilly finds that everything is not quite as she thought it was, and what she once thought was the key to her happiness might just be the quicksand itself that is holding her back from change.
You'll root for Tilly and her family as they struggle through re-making themselves, and you might see a little bit of yourself in her triumph.
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Monday, 21 November 2011
Book Review - A Heartbeat Away
A Heartbeat Away by Michael Palmer
My rating: 3 of 5 stars
There are some times of the year when the US government is particularly vulnerable to attack. One of those times is during the State of the Union address, when nearly all the members of the line of succession to the presidency are located in one room.
In A Heartbeat Away, the terrorist group Genesis takes advantage of this by releasing a deadly virus during the State of the Union, forcing a lockdown of the capitol building to prevent spreading the virus through the country. Meanwhile, an intrepid journalist and hermetic virologist strive to unlock both a cure and the identity of the Genesis group, uncovering multiple nefarious plots along the way.
With a lot of action, some shocking moments that made me gasp out loud and a gripping plot, this book is worth a read. Then again, if like me, you could think of worse things than a shake-up in American political structure, you may find a few points where you're wondering whether or not it'd be good for the US (trust me, I don't actually wish the Washington politicos ill, but it did make me wonder!).
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My rating: 3 of 5 stars
There are some times of the year when the US government is particularly vulnerable to attack. One of those times is during the State of the Union address, when nearly all the members of the line of succession to the presidency are located in one room.
In A Heartbeat Away, the terrorist group Genesis takes advantage of this by releasing a deadly virus during the State of the Union, forcing a lockdown of the capitol building to prevent spreading the virus through the country. Meanwhile, an intrepid journalist and hermetic virologist strive to unlock both a cure and the identity of the Genesis group, uncovering multiple nefarious plots along the way.
With a lot of action, some shocking moments that made me gasp out loud and a gripping plot, this book is worth a read. Then again, if like me, you could think of worse things than a shake-up in American political structure, you may find a few points where you're wondering whether or not it'd be good for the US (trust me, I don't actually wish the Washington politicos ill, but it did make me wonder!).
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Friday, 18 November 2011
Book Review - If You Lived Here, You'd Be Home Now
If You Lived Here, You'd Be Home Now by Claire LaZebnik
My rating: 1 of 5 stars
I wanted to like this book more than I did, but I found it very difficult to relate to the main character. The title and the cover were what grabbed me, and - to be honest - if I'd read the blurb or the beginning of the book I probably wouldn't have chosen it.
Rickie is a 25-year-old single mom, living at home with her wealthy parents while raising her son Noah. She struggles with the fact that her parents provide her with everything she could want, including clothing, support, and free babysitting, and with the fact that her gluten-intolerant son needs a special diet and is occasionally flighty. These horrors of her terrible, tragic life are also complicated by her relationship with her brother-in-law's brother, who travels out of town frequently.
She's very put upon. As you can see, I'm terribly sympathetic. Especially since her family is incredibly accepting of how rude she is to them, despite their best efforts to smother her by buying her expensive clothes and giving her a credit card (that they pay the bill for) to use fo her personal expenses.
But hey, life can always get better! Her son Noah has an incredible new PE teacher and T-ball coach, who not only is hot and smart, but is great with kids and loves Noah, giving him special attention and helping him make friends and learn about sports - since his mom can't even be bothered to play catch with him once in a while. He does have a girl friend, but that's okay! Rickie can solve that problem too.
I think if you can relate to Rickie and her "problems" you might relate to this book. I spent my time reading it being frustrated with her and wishing she'd grow up.
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My rating: 1 of 5 stars
I wanted to like this book more than I did, but I found it very difficult to relate to the main character. The title and the cover were what grabbed me, and - to be honest - if I'd read the blurb or the beginning of the book I probably wouldn't have chosen it.
Rickie is a 25-year-old single mom, living at home with her wealthy parents while raising her son Noah. She struggles with the fact that her parents provide her with everything she could want, including clothing, support, and free babysitting, and with the fact that her gluten-intolerant son needs a special diet and is occasionally flighty. These horrors of her terrible, tragic life are also complicated by her relationship with her brother-in-law's brother, who travels out of town frequently.
She's very put upon. As you can see, I'm terribly sympathetic. Especially since her family is incredibly accepting of how rude she is to them, despite their best efforts to smother her by buying her expensive clothes and giving her a credit card (that they pay the bill for) to use fo her personal expenses.
But hey, life can always get better! Her son Noah has an incredible new PE teacher and T-ball coach, who not only is hot and smart, but is great with kids and loves Noah, giving him special attention and helping him make friends and learn about sports - since his mom can't even be bothered to play catch with him once in a while. He does have a girl friend, but that's okay! Rickie can solve that problem too.
I think if you can relate to Rickie and her "problems" you might relate to this book. I spent my time reading it being frustrated with her and wishing she'd grow up.
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Tuesday, 8 November 2011
Book Review - Now You See Her
Now You See Her by Joy Fielding
My rating: 3 of 5 stars
Marcy's life is a bit of a wreck. Her mother killed herself. Her daughter presumably died in a canoeing accident, though her body was never found. Her husband left her for a golf pro at the club, just before their anniversary. To try to perk herself back up, she decides to take their anniversary trip to Ireland on her own - why waste a fun vacation after all? And it's sitting in a pub, chatting with an American tourist that she sees her daughter - outside in the rain, through the ad-pasted front window of the pub.
This revelation turns Marcy's life upside-down. She would do anything, of course, to find her daughter whom she loves and desperately misses. She begins searching the streets for her daughter, showing around pictures, asking questions, and eventually becoming friends with the handsome young bartender from the pub where she'd spotted Devon - her daughter - as well as the American tourist she'd been chatting with at the time. While both men seem determined to help her on her quest, one also ransacks her room, gets her in trouble with the local police, and is undermining her at every turn. But which?
This is a fun, sometimes very sad, romp through Cork, Ireland - a place I've always wanted to visit. The main character is engaging and sympathetic, though the story has some holes and strange twists that seem overly-dramatized. Still, it's an engaging read.
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My rating: 3 of 5 stars
Marcy's life is a bit of a wreck. Her mother killed herself. Her daughter presumably died in a canoeing accident, though her body was never found. Her husband left her for a golf pro at the club, just before their anniversary. To try to perk herself back up, she decides to take their anniversary trip to Ireland on her own - why waste a fun vacation after all? And it's sitting in a pub, chatting with an American tourist that she sees her daughter - outside in the rain, through the ad-pasted front window of the pub.
This revelation turns Marcy's life upside-down. She would do anything, of course, to find her daughter whom she loves and desperately misses. She begins searching the streets for her daughter, showing around pictures, asking questions, and eventually becoming friends with the handsome young bartender from the pub where she'd spotted Devon - her daughter - as well as the American tourist she'd been chatting with at the time. While both men seem determined to help her on her quest, one also ransacks her room, gets her in trouble with the local police, and is undermining her at every turn. But which?
This is a fun, sometimes very sad, romp through Cork, Ireland - a place I've always wanted to visit. The main character is engaging and sympathetic, though the story has some holes and strange twists that seem overly-dramatized. Still, it's an engaging read.
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Monday, 7 November 2011
Expert? Talent? Who me?
I have been working my behind off lately to work up a portfolio for my application at Demand Media for an "Expert" position. I needed to show off that I could teach concepts on video, that I had a personality that translated well on screen and that I could work professionally on-air. I had to show a knowledge of social media, including twitter, bloggin, and Facebook, and that I had enough background knowlege that I could star in a diverse series of videos.
I spent so much time worrying about it before I submitted the application that I found myself up late, stressing, worrying... and I shouldn't have. I submitted my application finally on Friday afternoon, and this morning I was accepted. I was so excited! I bounced. I yelled. I called my husband at work. I congratulated myself on building such a fantastic portfolio up.
I discovered through the portfolio making process that I really loved making videos. It took me back to when I was teaching crafting classes regularly. I felt connected and inspired. But there's a hitch.
I discovered today that the Expert position is unpaid.
Seriously? Unpaid? They've been paying me for my writing for a year now, and then get me all excited about the prospect of this position, get me to work up a portfolio for it, then inform me it's unpaid. Seriously?
Technically, they didn't "inform" me at all. I spent all day going over and over their training materials trying to find the pay rate today, and finally asked on the forum. Another "Expert" clued me in.
I think I'll continue to make the Youtube videos. I'm sure that I will, but unless I can find a local videographer willing to split his fee with me, I don't know if there's a point being "talent" for them. At least with YouTube I might make some Adsense revenue eventually!
I spent so much time worrying about it before I submitted the application that I found myself up late, stressing, worrying... and I shouldn't have. I submitted my application finally on Friday afternoon, and this morning I was accepted. I was so excited! I bounced. I yelled. I called my husband at work. I congratulated myself on building such a fantastic portfolio up.
I discovered through the portfolio making process that I really loved making videos. It took me back to when I was teaching crafting classes regularly. I felt connected and inspired. But there's a hitch.
I discovered today that the Expert position is unpaid.
Seriously? Unpaid? They've been paying me for my writing for a year now, and then get me all excited about the prospect of this position, get me to work up a portfolio for it, then inform me it's unpaid. Seriously?
Technically, they didn't "inform" me at all. I spent all day going over and over their training materials trying to find the pay rate today, and finally asked on the forum. Another "Expert" clued me in.
I think I'll continue to make the Youtube videos. I'm sure that I will, but unless I can find a local videographer willing to split his fee with me, I don't know if there's a point being "talent" for them. At least with YouTube I might make some Adsense revenue eventually!
Monday, 31 October 2011
More Crafty Diva Kat Videos!
I mentioned in my last video post that there would be another needlework one soon, that featured a better shot of the husband's Christmas gift, and this is it. Remember, no telling! It's been hell trying to work on such a big project and keep it a secret around here. He obviously has figured out that he's getting a stitched present from all the furitive stuffing of parts in bags and shuffing of things around when he gets home early or unexpectedly! But then, he knows at least one of his gifts every year will be hand made, so it's not that big of a surprise. Last year it was a scarf I designed as a gift for my dad. When he saw it, he was so jealous and wanted it for himself.... so I wound up making him one too, hah!
Book Review - Born in Our Hearts: Stories of Adoption
Born in Our Hearts: Stories of Adoption by Filis Casey
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
This heartwarming anthology of adoption stories made my heart ache. I desperately wanted to take so many of the children home and love them forever - I could feel the impact they made on their adoptive families, and the love between those children and the people of their forever homes shone through the pages beautifully.
The book ended with a rather startling - for me, at least - tale involving an adoptive mother and her new son having an encounter with the Dalai Lama in a botanical gardens during one of his visits to the United States. It spoke to me more deeply than many other things have and oddly felt like a kind of reassurance that we're on the right path, my husband and I, in pursuing adoption ourselves.
For those not in the know, we converted to Buddhism several years ago, and the peace, awareness, and acceptance it taught us carried us through some of the worst times in our lives with some measure of life still in us. I greatly respect the Dalai Lama and read his teachings with the devotion of an avid student, so this blessing... it said to me something more personal that it was here, in this book, on this day.
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My rating: 5 of 5 stars
This heartwarming anthology of adoption stories made my heart ache. I desperately wanted to take so many of the children home and love them forever - I could feel the impact they made on their adoptive families, and the love between those children and the people of their forever homes shone through the pages beautifully.
The book ended with a rather startling - for me, at least - tale involving an adoptive mother and her new son having an encounter with the Dalai Lama in a botanical gardens during one of his visits to the United States. It spoke to me more deeply than many other things have and oddly felt like a kind of reassurance that we're on the right path, my husband and I, in pursuing adoption ourselves.
For those not in the know, we converted to Buddhism several years ago, and the peace, awareness, and acceptance it taught us carried us through some of the worst times in our lives with some measure of life still in us. I greatly respect the Dalai Lama and read his teachings with the devotion of an avid student, so this blessing... it said to me something more personal that it was here, in this book, on this day.
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Sunday, 30 October 2011
Book Review - The Millionaires
The Millionaires by Brad Meltzer
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
Have you ever read a book and thought, "This would make a great vintage Tom Cruise action movie." Not current Tom Cruise, mind you, because he's too old to be a great Oliver (the leading character) now, but in his "The Firm" era he'd have rocked this role.
Speaking of which, if you like books like "The Firm", you'll love "The Millionaires." It's full of upper-crust rich folk banking intrigue, Secret Service agent action, and even a little bit of Disney imagineers and a race through the happiest place on earth to put the icing on the cake. Oliver is a bit player at a bank for the wealthy, an associate working under one of the partners, slaving away in hopes of one day making it into an Ivy League business school for his MBA in a bid to "save" his family from a mountain of medical debt.
One of Oliver's responsibilities involves wire transfers of unclaimed accounts, which are transferred over to the government. A stray fax with some inconsistencies pointed out by younger brother Charlie - an underling at the bank and notorious "Good Time Charlie" of sorts - sparks an idea. What's a perfect crime? When no one knows a crime took place? Who would know, then, if unclaimed money went missing?
If you like action, mystery and intrigue, I recommend this one highly. It's very entertaining, and led to several nights of staying up late to catch just a few more pages.
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My rating: 5 of 5 stars
Have you ever read a book and thought, "This would make a great vintage Tom Cruise action movie." Not current Tom Cruise, mind you, because he's too old to be a great Oliver (the leading character) now, but in his "The Firm" era he'd have rocked this role.
Speaking of which, if you like books like "The Firm", you'll love "The Millionaires." It's full of upper-crust rich folk banking intrigue, Secret Service agent action, and even a little bit of Disney imagineers and a race through the happiest place on earth to put the icing on the cake. Oliver is a bit player at a bank for the wealthy, an associate working under one of the partners, slaving away in hopes of one day making it into an Ivy League business school for his MBA in a bid to "save" his family from a mountain of medical debt.
One of Oliver's responsibilities involves wire transfers of unclaimed accounts, which are transferred over to the government. A stray fax with some inconsistencies pointed out by younger brother Charlie - an underling at the bank and notorious "Good Time Charlie" of sorts - sparks an idea. What's a perfect crime? When no one knows a crime took place? Who would know, then, if unclaimed money went missing?
If you like action, mystery and intrigue, I recommend this one highly. It's very entertaining, and led to several nights of staying up late to catch just a few more pages.
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Thursday, 27 October 2011
Needlework 1: Starting Threads
In which you get to see a tiny shot of a Christmas present I'm making for my husband. There's a much better shot in the next video in this series, which I made tonight and should be posted in a few days. I'm worried about finishing it in time but I think he's going to love it. No telling him what it is, now! He's been banned from watching the videos already!
Wednesday, 26 October 2011
Tuesday, 25 October 2011
Creatively Techie
Probably akin more to this |
The truth is, when he starts talking in acronyms I know I'm in trouble. I know a lot more about computers than many of my friends and family do, so when he talks about setting up permissions on his server I'm good. When he goes into coding talk, I'm completely lost, but attempt - usually - to look as though I'm still paying attention. Mentally, I'm preparing a shopping list for the craft store in my head. Oh, right I need to get more of the 931 embroidery floss and I should look for a nice fluffy yarn for that scarf for Mom's birthday, maybe some homespun?.... Then I glance over at him and am getting the glare. I've glazed over again.
Still and all, the talk has made some sort of a difference to me. Recently, some of the basic templates at one of the companies I work for were redone. Everyone else went "Meh, it looks mostly the same." Me? I went "Oh my god, look at all those rounded corners, that took hours!" Because yeah, it does. Not on graphics, but on tables and style sheets, those rounded corners are a real pain to get working correctly. How do I know? There was a Saturday devoted to that on the new website for my husband's IT business, Effortless IT.* You see, I finally convinced him that always giving away his services is counter-productive.
Just as I'm about to start giving away my own services, by creating free teaching videos for crochet instead of being paid for classes and lessons. I do this with a higher intent in mind, of course. As mentioned in a previous post, I am working on building up my application to become an "Expert" at DMS. I am still looking for ideas for future videos, by the by, if you have any suggestions.
The fun part of it all is, my creative outlet has become writing about a computer network/IT guy much like my husband. In fact, very very much like my husband. The wife in the story might even be kind of like me. Her dad is definitely my dad. While the story is fictional, the people are people I know. It's the first time I've written something truly lifted from real people since a crazed fan/stalker thought sure my fiction was "real" back when I was in college and managed to look up and call my parents somehow to talk to them about it. Talk about creepy.. and the only similarity in that case was that my story was about a girl who went to the same college as me. If you're interested in an excerpt, click the "Read More" below.
Do you write about real people in your fiction, slightly altered from their own reality? Has it ever had repercussions for you?
*[[Thanks to learning when the glassy eyed stare starts, he's getting really talented at talking about tech subjects in a way that non-techies can understand. Check out the blog on his site to see what I mean.]]
Monday, 24 October 2011
Writing Through Hard Times
One of my intentions on starting this blog, was to talk about what it's really like to be a writer who creates internet content. I haven't done that in a while.
I think that everyone knows that someone out there creates the web pages they surf every day. I don't think they give much thought to how that's done, or who the (wo)man behind the curtain might be. When you get a newsletter in your email box from a retailer, do you think about who composed it? When you do a quick google search to figure out how to baste a turkey when it's tented with foil, do you also research the credentials of the person who wrote the article?
There's a problem on the internet today, and that is the proliferation of bad and incorrect content. It's something google has tried to address with their new Panda system for search engine optimization. This algorithm not only rates the page that is returned in a search result, but evaluates how many ads are on the page, as well as the quality of content on other random pages on the site. This has led to some interesting results.
One of the primary websites that I write for through Demand Media Studios is eHow. When eHow started out on the web, it had a bad reputation for poorly researched and poorly written content. It was similar to sites like Associated Content, where anyone can set themselves up as a writer, write whatever they like, and generate a stream of income based on ad clicks from their pages. It resulted in a huge number of pages that were complete garbage. When Demand Media Studios took over, they did so replete with trained writers and editors who would fact-check and correct basic writing issues, with the intention of creating a better type of content for readers. It seemed to work, until Panda came along.
What Panda has done in general is to make pages such as eHow and Mahalo fall in their rankings. The problem with this is, of course, when it comes to Demand Media Studios, they are making less money. That means they can spend less to create new content. So how do they fix this?
Well, for Demand, it meant rolling out a program called First Look, which allowed the highest rated writers on their site a first chance to grab the few titles they are still releasing. Over the last few months, the titles have gone from a tidal wave, to a river, to a trickle, to a dry desert where everyone sits and clicks F5 all day hoping that the mirage on the horizon is real, and eventually a title will show up to be claimed.
I'm lucky. I'm in the small percent that made it into First Look. I want to feel proud about this, but I'm conflicted. Other writers are getting evicted from their homes, are unable to feed their children, are having vehicles repossessed. Granted, I got a little late on a couple of bills when the titles dried up, but it was nothing serious, and now that I'm finding titles again, I'm able to catch up. Others are so depressed about their financial situations that they are hinting about suicide on the Demand forums. They might just be drama queens. But might is the operative word, and it's a little scary to think that those ten titles I grabbed fresh off the title editor's desk might have made the difference in someone else losing their home. Or their struggle with depression and their life.
I deal with guilt now, whenever I write a title. I also deal with a huge amount of fear. If my scores drop below a 4.0, I'll be booted from the First Look program. Titles are graded on a five point scale, and many copy editors have admitted to never giving out a five, because they think an article would have to be perfect to earn that, and no article is ever perfect (it's actually supposed to indicate "excellent" while a four is to indicate "above average", a three "average", a two "below average" and a one "poor"). My heart races as I go over every article. Did I leave an extra space after a period there? Did I use a serial comma here? And if I did, will the editor like it or not? While Demand requires that we write in AP style, not all editors actually edit in AP style. More than once I have had editors add serial commas and mark down my score because I didn't use them when AP style dictates that they not be used.
There are also some scary, vindictive copy editors out there. From the stories on the forum, I am not the only one who has run into them. Rather than risk a rejection when I get a rewrite from one of them, I let the article expire. This happened recently, and it hurt my heart to let a title go when there are so few out there for the grasping and I need the money. Still, a rejection hurts your scorecard more than an abandoned rewrite does, and that is also a part of your grade; the number of articles accepted immediately, the number of rewrites, the number of abandoned rewrites, and the rejections. I'm lucky enough to have never had a rejection, but my abandoned rewrite percentage hovers at about 5% because of my fear of them.
I try not to talk about editors much, because I'm worried that they'll read it and edit me more harshly in the future because of it. Demand is terribly unbalanced that way, because writers never know the identity of their editors. They can see our names - and occasionally an editor will use my name in the notes, which is both nice and scary at the same time. They post on the same forum, so I'm careful with my words, though I have made a comment or two about how to address craft type articles so as to get them through (write like you're addressing a first grade art class, for instance) that might have been misinterpreted. Fear. Suspicion. It's everywhere at DMS now.
Does this lead to better writing? I don't know. For me, it leads to obsessive researching and writing that almost makes the pay for the articles not worth the hours I spend crafting them.
DMS is starting to move into a new direction, with experts instead of just writers. How that is going to pan out is yet to be seen, though I'm working on setting up the kinds of resources I need now, to be in place so I can apply for an expert position. This blog is a part of that, as is my brand-spanking-new Twitter account, and my facebook fan page. If you are a fan of this blog and you twitter or facebook, I would appreciate your support. My twitter username is CraftyDivaKat, and I go by the same on facebook, with the page located here: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Crafty-Diva-Kat/180386195377438?ref=ts&sk=wall
Also, if you have any requests for videos or how-to articles on some of the things that I do, including crochet, needlework, knitting, scrapbooking, altered books and more, please let me know with a comment here, a post on the facebook page, or a tweet. I'm starting a series of basic crochet instruction videos soon, including eventually a tutorial on making fishnets out of stretchy sock yarn, something I've had many requests to teach. I'm looking forward to hearing from you!
I think that everyone knows that someone out there creates the web pages they surf every day. I don't think they give much thought to how that's done, or who the (wo)man behind the curtain might be. When you get a newsletter in your email box from a retailer, do you think about who composed it? When you do a quick google search to figure out how to baste a turkey when it's tented with foil, do you also research the credentials of the person who wrote the article?
There's a problem on the internet today, and that is the proliferation of bad and incorrect content. It's something google has tried to address with their new Panda system for search engine optimization. This algorithm not only rates the page that is returned in a search result, but evaluates how many ads are on the page, as well as the quality of content on other random pages on the site. This has led to some interesting results.
One of the primary websites that I write for through Demand Media Studios is eHow. When eHow started out on the web, it had a bad reputation for poorly researched and poorly written content. It was similar to sites like Associated Content, where anyone can set themselves up as a writer, write whatever they like, and generate a stream of income based on ad clicks from their pages. It resulted in a huge number of pages that were complete garbage. When Demand Media Studios took over, they did so replete with trained writers and editors who would fact-check and correct basic writing issues, with the intention of creating a better type of content for readers. It seemed to work, until Panda came along.
What Panda has done in general is to make pages such as eHow and Mahalo fall in their rankings. The problem with this is, of course, when it comes to Demand Media Studios, they are making less money. That means they can spend less to create new content. So how do they fix this?
Well, for Demand, it meant rolling out a program called First Look, which allowed the highest rated writers on their site a first chance to grab the few titles they are still releasing. Over the last few months, the titles have gone from a tidal wave, to a river, to a trickle, to a dry desert where everyone sits and clicks F5 all day hoping that the mirage on the horizon is real, and eventually a title will show up to be claimed.
I'm lucky. I'm in the small percent that made it into First Look. I want to feel proud about this, but I'm conflicted. Other writers are getting evicted from their homes, are unable to feed their children, are having vehicles repossessed. Granted, I got a little late on a couple of bills when the titles dried up, but it was nothing serious, and now that I'm finding titles again, I'm able to catch up. Others are so depressed about their financial situations that they are hinting about suicide on the Demand forums. They might just be drama queens. But might is the operative word, and it's a little scary to think that those ten titles I grabbed fresh off the title editor's desk might have made the difference in someone else losing their home. Or their struggle with depression and their life.
I deal with guilt now, whenever I write a title. I also deal with a huge amount of fear. If my scores drop below a 4.0, I'll be booted from the First Look program. Titles are graded on a five point scale, and many copy editors have admitted to never giving out a five, because they think an article would have to be perfect to earn that, and no article is ever perfect (it's actually supposed to indicate "excellent" while a four is to indicate "above average", a three "average", a two "below average" and a one "poor"). My heart races as I go over every article. Did I leave an extra space after a period there? Did I use a serial comma here? And if I did, will the editor like it or not? While Demand requires that we write in AP style, not all editors actually edit in AP style. More than once I have had editors add serial commas and mark down my score because I didn't use them when AP style dictates that they not be used.
There are also some scary, vindictive copy editors out there. From the stories on the forum, I am not the only one who has run into them. Rather than risk a rejection when I get a rewrite from one of them, I let the article expire. This happened recently, and it hurt my heart to let a title go when there are so few out there for the grasping and I need the money. Still, a rejection hurts your scorecard more than an abandoned rewrite does, and that is also a part of your grade; the number of articles accepted immediately, the number of rewrites, the number of abandoned rewrites, and the rejections. I'm lucky enough to have never had a rejection, but my abandoned rewrite percentage hovers at about 5% because of my fear of them.
I try not to talk about editors much, because I'm worried that they'll read it and edit me more harshly in the future because of it. Demand is terribly unbalanced that way, because writers never know the identity of their editors. They can see our names - and occasionally an editor will use my name in the notes, which is both nice and scary at the same time. They post on the same forum, so I'm careful with my words, though I have made a comment or two about how to address craft type articles so as to get them through (write like you're addressing a first grade art class, for instance) that might have been misinterpreted. Fear. Suspicion. It's everywhere at DMS now.
Does this lead to better writing? I don't know. For me, it leads to obsessive researching and writing that almost makes the pay for the articles not worth the hours I spend crafting them.
DMS is starting to move into a new direction, with experts instead of just writers. How that is going to pan out is yet to be seen, though I'm working on setting up the kinds of resources I need now, to be in place so I can apply for an expert position. This blog is a part of that, as is my brand-spanking-new Twitter account, and my facebook fan page. If you are a fan of this blog and you twitter or facebook, I would appreciate your support. My twitter username is CraftyDivaKat, and I go by the same on facebook, with the page located here: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Crafty-Diva-Kat/180386195377438?ref=ts&sk=wall
Also, if you have any requests for videos or how-to articles on some of the things that I do, including crochet, needlework, knitting, scrapbooking, altered books and more, please let me know with a comment here, a post on the facebook page, or a tweet. I'm starting a series of basic crochet instruction videos soon, including eventually a tutorial on making fishnets out of stretchy sock yarn, something I've had many requests to teach. I'm looking forward to hearing from you!
Book Review - In Search of April Raintree
In Search of April Raintree: Critical Edition by Beatrice Culleton Mosionier
My rating: 3 of 5 stars
There ahave been more than a few times over the last couple of years that my book club has chosen a book that I never would have looked twice at. This was one of them.
When I mentioned to a few non-book-club friends that I was reading this book, they surprised me by telling me they'd read it in high school, and as I researched a little, I discovered that this is a fairly common school novel for teens in Canada. Being Canadian by immigration rather than birth, I started to look forward to reading it; in discussions I've discovered that my husband and I vary vastly on the books we read in school, and the same goes with some of my friends. They weren't taken by To Kill a Mockingbird or The Grapes of Wrath, two of the books in school that taught me to absolutely love books, and I realize looking back, that those are fairly classic American tales. In Search of April Raintree on the other hand is a classic Canadian tale of a Metis woman, and her struggles in Canadian society.
April, born to alcoholic parents in a poor neighborhood, doesn't really understand how different her situation is from most Canadian kids until she is taken from her parents, along with her little sister Cheryl, and is placed in foster care. Oh, she was aware she was different, particularly from white children as they taunted her and others in the playground. She knew that her family looked different, acted differently, were seperate from white Canada, but that rift became accentuated when she was placed in a white foster family.
My heart broke for April as she struggled to come to terms with her nationality, attempting to both pass for white and embrace her native half in various parts of her life. Her denial through school was easy enough, as she looked more "white" than her sister, but that relationship gave her away every time.
The style of writing in this book is sparse, and it reads much as though it was written for a younger audience (which I'm guessing it was). I usually like YA books, but most contemporary YA is written in a more adult style for a more sophisticated breed of young adults than I think this was originally written for. As such, I found myself rolling my eyes and being annoyed in some places. The dialogue is stilted and sometimes unbelievable, but the lessons and experiences in the novel are worth the occasional frustration with the writing itself. In Search of April Raintree speaks of a wound to the Metis people of Canada that has festered for generations, and has infected both sides of the divide, from the stereotyped "poor, drunk Indians" to the ignorant white populace who lost out on a chance at cultural diversity. It's sad, almost unbearably so, to follow a child's suffering, but has it's moments of triumph as well, which is what earned it a three-star rating from me, despite the technical problems with the prose.
This isn't a relaxing read, or necessarily one you'll enjoy, but it can be an important one if you are interested in becoming more sensitive to the plight of the Metis people.
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My rating: 3 of 5 stars
There ahave been more than a few times over the last couple of years that my book club has chosen a book that I never would have looked twice at. This was one of them.
When I mentioned to a few non-book-club friends that I was reading this book, they surprised me by telling me they'd read it in high school, and as I researched a little, I discovered that this is a fairly common school novel for teens in Canada. Being Canadian by immigration rather than birth, I started to look forward to reading it; in discussions I've discovered that my husband and I vary vastly on the books we read in school, and the same goes with some of my friends. They weren't taken by To Kill a Mockingbird or The Grapes of Wrath, two of the books in school that taught me to absolutely love books, and I realize looking back, that those are fairly classic American tales. In Search of April Raintree on the other hand is a classic Canadian tale of a Metis woman, and her struggles in Canadian society.
April, born to alcoholic parents in a poor neighborhood, doesn't really understand how different her situation is from most Canadian kids until she is taken from her parents, along with her little sister Cheryl, and is placed in foster care. Oh, she was aware she was different, particularly from white children as they taunted her and others in the playground. She knew that her family looked different, acted differently, were seperate from white Canada, but that rift became accentuated when she was placed in a white foster family.
My heart broke for April as she struggled to come to terms with her nationality, attempting to both pass for white and embrace her native half in various parts of her life. Her denial through school was easy enough, as she looked more "white" than her sister, but that relationship gave her away every time.
The style of writing in this book is sparse, and it reads much as though it was written for a younger audience (which I'm guessing it was). I usually like YA books, but most contemporary YA is written in a more adult style for a more sophisticated breed of young adults than I think this was originally written for. As such, I found myself rolling my eyes and being annoyed in some places. The dialogue is stilted and sometimes unbelievable, but the lessons and experiences in the novel are worth the occasional frustration with the writing itself. In Search of April Raintree speaks of a wound to the Metis people of Canada that has festered for generations, and has infected both sides of the divide, from the stereotyped "poor, drunk Indians" to the ignorant white populace who lost out on a chance at cultural diversity. It's sad, almost unbearably so, to follow a child's suffering, but has it's moments of triumph as well, which is what earned it a three-star rating from me, despite the technical problems with the prose.
This isn't a relaxing read, or necessarily one you'll enjoy, but it can be an important one if you are interested in becoming more sensitive to the plight of the Metis people.
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Friday, 21 October 2011
Book Review - The Thirteen
The Thirteen by Susie Moloney
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Imagine how much scarier suburbia would be if the annoyingly perfect snobs on the cul-de-sac earned the title "witch" in more than just the euphemistic sense? When Paula returns to Haven Woods, the suburb where she grew up, to visit her ailing mother she is faced with the ghosts of her childhood and the witches of the present. And when those witches need to appease their "father" it becomes a dangerous situation for her young daughter, Rowan and her ebbing romance with a friend from her adolescent days who is also a recent returnee to the town.
This is a fun, fantastical twist on modern life in the 'burbs. It's an entertaining read, with bewitching characters, just right for a cool October evening.
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My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Imagine how much scarier suburbia would be if the annoyingly perfect snobs on the cul-de-sac earned the title "witch" in more than just the euphemistic sense? When Paula returns to Haven Woods, the suburb where she grew up, to visit her ailing mother she is faced with the ghosts of her childhood and the witches of the present. And when those witches need to appease their "father" it becomes a dangerous situation for her young daughter, Rowan and her ebbing romance with a friend from her adolescent days who is also a recent returnee to the town.
This is a fun, fantastical twist on modern life in the 'burbs. It's an entertaining read, with bewitching characters, just right for a cool October evening.
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Tuesday, 11 October 2011
The Presence
The Presence by John Saul
My rating: 3 of 5 stars
Mysterious mix of sci fi and mystery on the islands of Hawaii. Suspenseful, quick-ish read.
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My rating: 3 of 5 stars
Mysterious mix of sci fi and mystery on the islands of Hawaii. Suspenseful, quick-ish read.
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Monday, 10 October 2011
The Ninth Wife
The Ninth Wife by Amy Stolls
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
The Ninth Wife is a story about relationships and marriage told from the perspective of a 35 year old unmarried woman. Bess is in love with Rory, who has been married eight times before, and should she see it through, she'll become his ninth wife. It's a prospect that seems shaky to her, especially given the pain that she has seen coming from marriage, whether it is because of the horror of separation from death, as happened to her mother when her father died in her childhood, or as happened to her friend and neighbor Cricket, whose husband died several years earlier, leaving him trying to fill his husbands shoes and become the man his husband used to be, or the way after a 60 + year old marriage like her grandparents have, things might start to be more about hurting each other than loving each other.
The book boasts a fascinating cast of characters that Bess meets along the way, on her quest to discover Rory's past via his ex-wives, and exposes the best and worst that happens when we love one another.
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My rating: 4 of 5 stars
The Ninth Wife is a story about relationships and marriage told from the perspective of a 35 year old unmarried woman. Bess is in love with Rory, who has been married eight times before, and should she see it through, she'll become his ninth wife. It's a prospect that seems shaky to her, especially given the pain that she has seen coming from marriage, whether it is because of the horror of separation from death, as happened to her mother when her father died in her childhood, or as happened to her friend and neighbor Cricket, whose husband died several years earlier, leaving him trying to fill his husbands shoes and become the man his husband used to be, or the way after a 60 + year old marriage like her grandparents have, things might start to be more about hurting each other than loving each other.
The book boasts a fascinating cast of characters that Bess meets along the way, on her quest to discover Rory's past via his ex-wives, and exposes the best and worst that happens when we love one another.
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Tuesday, 4 October 2011
The Genesis Secret
The Genesis Secret by Tom Knox
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Cleverly told, this tale of a detective from Scotland Yard and a reporter from London weaves together science and adventure in a heady mix. There are some truly gruesome moments - historically, humans have been inventively and disarmingly cruel to one another, as both the detective and the scientist discover when the leader of a gang of not-quite-thugs (more like literate, intelligent college kids) begin re-enacting human sacrifice as it has been practiced in various cultures throughout the ages. Meanwhile, a well-known archaeologist is murdered at his dig site, a site that the reporter was doing a story on, as it may have held evidence of the very earliest human civilization.
This book reminded me of a cross between "The Historian" by Elizabeth Kostova (one of my favourite all-time books, so that's a compliment there) and Dan Brown's "The DaVinci Code" which I found enjoyable, but wasn't a huge hit with me. Throw in a female Indiana Jones type who becomes a sidekick (and fiancee) to the journalist and you have a well-rounded story that will keep you up late reading. There are some extremely gruesome scenes, which can be skimmed past without losing plot points if you have a weak stomach (or heart, like me.... wow humans were historically cruel.)
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My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Cleverly told, this tale of a detective from Scotland Yard and a reporter from London weaves together science and adventure in a heady mix. There are some truly gruesome moments - historically, humans have been inventively and disarmingly cruel to one another, as both the detective and the scientist discover when the leader of a gang of not-quite-thugs (more like literate, intelligent college kids) begin re-enacting human sacrifice as it has been practiced in various cultures throughout the ages. Meanwhile, a well-known archaeologist is murdered at his dig site, a site that the reporter was doing a story on, as it may have held evidence of the very earliest human civilization.
This book reminded me of a cross between "The Historian" by Elizabeth Kostova (one of my favourite all-time books, so that's a compliment there) and Dan Brown's "The DaVinci Code" which I found enjoyable, but wasn't a huge hit with me. Throw in a female Indiana Jones type who becomes a sidekick (and fiancee) to the journalist and you have a well-rounded story that will keep you up late reading. There are some extremely gruesome scenes, which can be skimmed past without losing plot points if you have a weak stomach (or heart, like me.... wow humans were historically cruel.)
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Wednesday, 28 September 2011
Pretty Woman
Pretty Woman by Fern Michaels
My rating: 3 of 5 stars
Fun, entertaining chick-lit romp which sometimes deviates into corniness, but has such endearing characters that you can forgive the lapses.
Rosie is married to a man who hates her. She's put on weight while ignoring his affairs and negligence of the relationship, and has poured herself into her sucessful business. Her best friend tried to warn her before the wedding, and when Rosie wouldn't listen, she left for Europe. Her loyal housekeeper tried to tell her, but she dismissed it. Now, she's having to face the realities of her life, and it isn't pretty... but with some work, it could be.
Best friend Vickie has returned from Europe, her new personal trainer is hot, her business is picking up massively and it's beyond fun for her to watch her exhusband struggling without her cash to buoy his extravagent lifestyle. To top it off, she wins the lotto's 300 million + jackpot. But if she turns in the ticket, she'll have to split it with her ex, which makes for a difficult series of choices to face.
Overall, this is a sweet, feel-good book. It isn't earth-shattering by any means, but it's a great way to while away a few autumn afternoons.
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My rating: 3 of 5 stars
Fun, entertaining chick-lit romp which sometimes deviates into corniness, but has such endearing characters that you can forgive the lapses.
Rosie is married to a man who hates her. She's put on weight while ignoring his affairs and negligence of the relationship, and has poured herself into her sucessful business. Her best friend tried to warn her before the wedding, and when Rosie wouldn't listen, she left for Europe. Her loyal housekeeper tried to tell her, but she dismissed it. Now, she's having to face the realities of her life, and it isn't pretty... but with some work, it could be.
Best friend Vickie has returned from Europe, her new personal trainer is hot, her business is picking up massively and it's beyond fun for her to watch her exhusband struggling without her cash to buoy his extravagent lifestyle. To top it off, she wins the lotto's 300 million + jackpot. But if she turns in the ticket, she'll have to split it with her ex, which makes for a difficult series of choices to face.
Overall, this is a sweet, feel-good book. It isn't earth-shattering by any means, but it's a great way to while away a few autumn afternoons.
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Thursday, 22 September 2011
The Cinderella Pact
The Cinderella Pact by Sarah Strohmeyer
My rating: 3 of 5 stars
Three best friends meet for comfort food at a favourite restaurant one day and are seated in the back, by the kitchen, despite requesting the window table they hold as their favourite spot. All three are horrified that they are being hidden away like a dirty secret, and resolve to transoform themselves into the princesses they feel they truly are by losing weight. All three choose different methods - gastric bypass for one, weight watchers for another, a personal trainer and nutritionist for the third, and all of them find their way to weight loss, but along the way discover that it's not a magic wand to solve the problems in their lives. If they had a husband they "settled for" before, he's no better once the weight is gone. A bad career that sucks your time and energy still sucks your time and energy. That boss that looked down on you - you thought because of your weight - is still a bitch when you're "willow thin". There is more to becoming a Cinderella than these woman thought.
This is a fun, light, quick read with interesting characters you can get behind and root for, and one in particular that I wanted to take home and make into one of *my* best friends. While the book does have a bit of annoying prosthetizing about both religion and weight loss, it's quirky and entertaining despite these flaws, and despite the frequent lapses into weight loss cliche.
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My rating: 3 of 5 stars
Three best friends meet for comfort food at a favourite restaurant one day and are seated in the back, by the kitchen, despite requesting the window table they hold as their favourite spot. All three are horrified that they are being hidden away like a dirty secret, and resolve to transoform themselves into the princesses they feel they truly are by losing weight. All three choose different methods - gastric bypass for one, weight watchers for another, a personal trainer and nutritionist for the third, and all of them find their way to weight loss, but along the way discover that it's not a magic wand to solve the problems in their lives. If they had a husband they "settled for" before, he's no better once the weight is gone. A bad career that sucks your time and energy still sucks your time and energy. That boss that looked down on you - you thought because of your weight - is still a bitch when you're "willow thin". There is more to becoming a Cinderella than these woman thought.
This is a fun, light, quick read with interesting characters you can get behind and root for, and one in particular that I wanted to take home and make into one of *my* best friends. While the book does have a bit of annoying prosthetizing about both religion and weight loss, it's quirky and entertaining despite these flaws, and despite the frequent lapses into weight loss cliche.
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Tuesday, 20 September 2011
Never Knowing
Never Knowing by Chevy Stevens
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
I couldn't put this one down. After a couple of late nights and a marathon of reading this morning, I found myself slapping the book shut with a sigh. Oh, how I love a great book that grabs me and just doesn't let go.
The story of Never Knowing is told through visits with a therapist, an interesting storytelling technique that I haven't run into before. I usually have issues reading with first person perspectives, but this made it natural, real, and "in the now" as each therapy session unfolded. I felt for the protagonist; I can't imagine my own reaction if I went to search out my birth parents and realized they were a serial killer and the one victim who got away. As the discoveries compound, the serial killer decides he'd like to be a part of his daughter's life, with disastrous consequences.
Pick it up. Trust me on this one. It is a fantastic winner.
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My rating: 5 of 5 stars
I couldn't put this one down. After a couple of late nights and a marathon of reading this morning, I found myself slapping the book shut with a sigh. Oh, how I love a great book that grabs me and just doesn't let go.
The story of Never Knowing is told through visits with a therapist, an interesting storytelling technique that I haven't run into before. I usually have issues reading with first person perspectives, but this made it natural, real, and "in the now" as each therapy session unfolded. I felt for the protagonist; I can't imagine my own reaction if I went to search out my birth parents and realized they were a serial killer and the one victim who got away. As the discoveries compound, the serial killer decides he'd like to be a part of his daughter's life, with disastrous consequences.
Pick it up. Trust me on this one. It is a fantastic winner.
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Monday, 19 September 2011
The Pioneer Woman: Black Heels to Tractor Wheels -- A Love Story
The Pioneer Woman: Black Heels to Tractor Wheels -- A Love Story by Ree Drummond
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
I have been a fan of Ree's blog - Pioneer Woman - for a very long time. I found it thanks to some wonderful friends, the same ones who turned me on to Cake Wrecks and Regretsy and made me love blogs in general.
Because I have read her blog for years, I felt like I already knew most of Ree's story, read in bits and pieces, memories and thoughts and references in her recipes and photographs on Pioneer Woman, but I thoroughly enjoyed this book nonetheless. I loved hearing about her romance with Marlboro Man in all of it's rich detail and humiliating - at times - detail. Ree's self-effacing sense of humor and no-nonsense attitude toward life is refreshing, and she's very honest about her emotional struggles with her parents divorce and her thoughts on pregnancy and motherhood... nothing I wouldn't have expected from reading her blog over the years.
If you're a blog fan, you'll love her book. If you've never seen her blog, this will make you search out that blog, to find out more about the cowboy, the cooking, the cows, and the kids, all of which make for a wonderfully colorful tapestry of real life in the country.
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My rating: 4 of 5 stars
I have been a fan of Ree's blog - Pioneer Woman - for a very long time. I found it thanks to some wonderful friends, the same ones who turned me on to Cake Wrecks and Regretsy and made me love blogs in general.
Because I have read her blog for years, I felt like I already knew most of Ree's story, read in bits and pieces, memories and thoughts and references in her recipes and photographs on Pioneer Woman, but I thoroughly enjoyed this book nonetheless. I loved hearing about her romance with Marlboro Man in all of it's rich detail and humiliating - at times - detail. Ree's self-effacing sense of humor and no-nonsense attitude toward life is refreshing, and she's very honest about her emotional struggles with her parents divorce and her thoughts on pregnancy and motherhood... nothing I wouldn't have expected from reading her blog over the years.
If you're a blog fan, you'll love her book. If you've never seen her blog, this will make you search out that blog, to find out more about the cowboy, the cooking, the cows, and the kids, all of which make for a wonderfully colorful tapestry of real life in the country.
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Saturday, 17 September 2011
Forever Lily: An Unexpected Mother's Journey to Adoption in China
Forever Lily: An Unexpected Mother's Journey to Adoption in China by Beth Nonte Russell
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
I wish GoodReads allowed you go give half-star ratings, because I really think this is a 3 1/2 star, not quite four book, but I'm bumping up to be magnanimous. Or something.
This is a strange little memoir about a woman who goes to China to accompany her friend, who is adopting a baby there. The friend doesn't bond with the baby, and through some legal manuevering, the author becomes the adoptive mother instead. The tale of the trip is interspersed with the author's dreams/past-life memories of her own history in China as the wife of an ancient Emporer. Huh. She has a few odd experiences which she classifies as possible hallucinations while in the country, and phones home to tell her story of meeting the baby to her friend the psychic/mystic who appears to be her life coach or advisor of some sort.
If anything, this book made me very relieved in regards to our own potential for getting approved to adopt.
It was touching in places, and I was interested in reading about the instant bond she forged with her child, from the moment they met. I also appreciated the section about how abirth parent is not necessarily the parent the universe meant for a child, that there may be a spiritual parent out there who is waiting to connect to their child. That's how I feel sometimes, so I could relate. I firmly believe our child is out there, waiting for us to find him or her.
Overall, an interesting read for anyone interested in or going through the adoption process, though a little weird for a general read.
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My rating: 4 of 5 stars
I wish GoodReads allowed you go give half-star ratings, because I really think this is a 3 1/2 star, not quite four book, but I'm bumping up to be magnanimous. Or something.
This is a strange little memoir about a woman who goes to China to accompany her friend, who is adopting a baby there. The friend doesn't bond with the baby, and through some legal manuevering, the author becomes the adoptive mother instead. The tale of the trip is interspersed with the author's dreams/past-life memories of her own history in China as the wife of an ancient Emporer. Huh. She has a few odd experiences which she classifies as possible hallucinations while in the country, and phones home to tell her story of meeting the baby to her friend the psychic/mystic who appears to be her life coach or advisor of some sort.
If anything, this book made me very relieved in regards to our own potential for getting approved to adopt.
It was touching in places, and I was interested in reading about the instant bond she forged with her child, from the moment they met. I also appreciated the section about how abirth parent is not necessarily the parent the universe meant for a child, that there may be a spiritual parent out there who is waiting to connect to their child. That's how I feel sometimes, so I could relate. I firmly believe our child is out there, waiting for us to find him or her.
Overall, an interesting read for anyone interested in or going through the adoption process, though a little weird for a general read.
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Awaken
Awaken by Katie Kacvinsky
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Seventeen year-old Maddie is popular; she has thousands of friends. The problem is, when she goes to book club, or to a movie, or shopping, she's actually alone in her room, looking at digitally projected images on the wall screens. When it's time for school, she attends DS, or digital school, a brainchild of a dictatorial former high-school principal tired of dealing with school shootings and violent epsiodes and who also happens to be Maddie's father.
The premise of this book feels all too real, and the explanation about climbing violence and escalating fear in the world was all too accurate. I can easily see how a society could be lured into feeling "safe" when they never have to leave their homes. I already prefer shopping online, especially at Christmastime - who needs to fight crowds when you can compare prices in tabs of your browser and only spend as much on shipping as you would on gas getting to the mall anyway? People all over the globe go to college online, and increasing numbers of high school students are taking classes online as well. We are headed in the direction of a digital world. But when we're all so plugged in, are we really disconnecting from one another?
There was a lady behind me at No Frills last night as we checked out our groceries, and she spent her entire time in the line chatting on her cell phone. When it came time for her to pay - we were still bagging her cgroceries - she didn't have enough for her bottle of Tums, her only purchase. I would have paid for them for her, I later told my husband, if I had felt any kind of human connection to her, but because she was talking on her cell the entire time, all I felt was irritation. A loss for us both, maybe. And the way the author and I both see the world as a whole drifting.
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My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Seventeen year-old Maddie is popular; she has thousands of friends. The problem is, when she goes to book club, or to a movie, or shopping, she's actually alone in her room, looking at digitally projected images on the wall screens. When it's time for school, she attends DS, or digital school, a brainchild of a dictatorial former high-school principal tired of dealing with school shootings and violent epsiodes and who also happens to be Maddie's father.
The premise of this book feels all too real, and the explanation about climbing violence and escalating fear in the world was all too accurate. I can easily see how a society could be lured into feeling "safe" when they never have to leave their homes. I already prefer shopping online, especially at Christmastime - who needs to fight crowds when you can compare prices in tabs of your browser and only spend as much on shipping as you would on gas getting to the mall anyway? People all over the globe go to college online, and increasing numbers of high school students are taking classes online as well. We are headed in the direction of a digital world. But when we're all so plugged in, are we really disconnecting from one another?
There was a lady behind me at No Frills last night as we checked out our groceries, and she spent her entire time in the line chatting on her cell phone. When it came time for her to pay - we were still bagging her cgroceries - she didn't have enough for her bottle of Tums, her only purchase. I would have paid for them for her, I later told my husband, if I had felt any kind of human connection to her, but because she was talking on her cell the entire time, all I felt was irritation. A loss for us both, maybe. And the way the author and I both see the world as a whole drifting.
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Tuesday, 13 September 2011
The Soul Collector
The Soul Collector by Paul Johnston
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
The Soul Collector is the second installment in a fun crime saga following writer Matt Wells. What isn't so fun is the antics of his former girlfriend, Sara, who is now following in the footsteps of her brother - the White Devil serial killer from the first book in the series.
Matt Wells is pretty savvy for a writer, going up against nasty bad guys, and solves some intricate puzzles along the way that had me scratching my head. I enjoyed the fact that this time I was surprised by the identities of the sidekicks, which I had figured out early on in the first book. I usually figure that stuff out early on, so I didn't count it against the author, but I do give him major kudos for fooling me this time!
The author also gets accolades from me for managing to conjure up an atmosphere of fear and horror without being overly graphic with the bloody gore. I don't like gratuitous nastiness that just turns mey stomach, and Johnston walks the fine line between making it authentic and frightening without just turning it gross.
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My rating: 4 of 5 stars
The Soul Collector is the second installment in a fun crime saga following writer Matt Wells. What isn't so fun is the antics of his former girlfriend, Sara, who is now following in the footsteps of her brother - the White Devil serial killer from the first book in the series.
Matt Wells is pretty savvy for a writer, going up against nasty bad guys, and solves some intricate puzzles along the way that had me scratching my head. I enjoyed the fact that this time I was surprised by the identities of the sidekicks, which I had figured out early on in the first book. I usually figure that stuff out early on, so I didn't count it against the author, but I do give him major kudos for fooling me this time!
The author also gets accolades from me for managing to conjure up an atmosphere of fear and horror without being overly graphic with the bloody gore. I don't like gratuitous nastiness that just turns mey stomach, and Johnston walks the fine line between making it authentic and frightening without just turning it gross.
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Saturday, 10 September 2011
The Help
The Help by Kathryn Stockett
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
Not only one of the best books I've read this year, The Help is one of the best books I have ever read.
I was completely enthralled by the exquisitely detailed world of 1960s Jackson Mississippi that the author wove from details of battenburg lace, extra-strength hairspray and pastel ladies suits. I wanted to be Skeeter and Minnie's best friend... yes, both of them. My heart ached when they struggled, and leapt with joy when they triumphed, because I felt an honest emotional connection with these people and their world. It is rare for me to be as caught up in a book as I was with this book, but I can't deny it; I'm in love with The Help!
The Help follows the story of societal black sheep Skeeter, who went to college to learn rather than to earn her Mrs. degree like her friends. She returns to her home town of Jackson Mississippi and finds that she no longer fits into the mold that was cut out for her, to be a demure southern belle who accepts the status quo. Instead, she is uncomfortable with the social strata, with the expectations that are laid out for white ladies of her age, and with the way her friends treat their children, husbands, one another, and most significantly, the household help.
Setting out on a combined quest to tell the story of black household workers and to find the maid that raised her with such compassion, Skeeter finds herself caught up in the changing world of Civil Rights, with a richly painted historical backdrop of events including the Medger Evers assassination, the walk on the moon, Kennedy's presidency and assassination, Rosa Parks, lunch counter sit-ins, and the speeches and work of Martin Luther King Jr. She befriends Abileen, her friend's maid, who begins by assisting her in her writing of a housekeeping column, and winds up becoming a true friend, during an era when such relationships are more than verboten.
This phenomenal novel explores the ways in which women relate, from mothers and daughters, to childhood friends, to our ways of dealing with those who work in service. I see echoes of the way Miss Hillie dealt with Abileen in the way I see people speak to waitstaff and hotel staff today, and it hurts my heart to think we haven't quite outgrown all of our prejudices. Test yourself as you read; have you ever used this kind of dismissive tone, or that way of ignoring someone? Even if it is less harsh than the realities of the 60s, it's worth reminding ourselves that we need to constantly reexamine what we were taught as children and whether or not it affects the way we treat people today.
Read this book. Read it immediately. Then read it again.
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My rating: 5 of 5 stars
Not only one of the best books I've read this year, The Help is one of the best books I have ever read.
I was completely enthralled by the exquisitely detailed world of 1960s Jackson Mississippi that the author wove from details of battenburg lace, extra-strength hairspray and pastel ladies suits. I wanted to be Skeeter and Minnie's best friend... yes, both of them. My heart ached when they struggled, and leapt with joy when they triumphed, because I felt an honest emotional connection with these people and their world. It is rare for me to be as caught up in a book as I was with this book, but I can't deny it; I'm in love with The Help!
The Help follows the story of societal black sheep Skeeter, who went to college to learn rather than to earn her Mrs. degree like her friends. She returns to her home town of Jackson Mississippi and finds that she no longer fits into the mold that was cut out for her, to be a demure southern belle who accepts the status quo. Instead, she is uncomfortable with the social strata, with the expectations that are laid out for white ladies of her age, and with the way her friends treat their children, husbands, one another, and most significantly, the household help.
Setting out on a combined quest to tell the story of black household workers and to find the maid that raised her with such compassion, Skeeter finds herself caught up in the changing world of Civil Rights, with a richly painted historical backdrop of events including the Medger Evers assassination, the walk on the moon, Kennedy's presidency and assassination, Rosa Parks, lunch counter sit-ins, and the speeches and work of Martin Luther King Jr. She befriends Abileen, her friend's maid, who begins by assisting her in her writing of a housekeeping column, and winds up becoming a true friend, during an era when such relationships are more than verboten.
This phenomenal novel explores the ways in which women relate, from mothers and daughters, to childhood friends, to our ways of dealing with those who work in service. I see echoes of the way Miss Hillie dealt with Abileen in the way I see people speak to waitstaff and hotel staff today, and it hurts my heart to think we haven't quite outgrown all of our prejudices. Test yourself as you read; have you ever used this kind of dismissive tone, or that way of ignoring someone? Even if it is less harsh than the realities of the 60s, it's worth reminding ourselves that we need to constantly reexamine what we were taught as children and whether or not it affects the way we treat people today.
Read this book. Read it immediately. Then read it again.
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Friday, 9 September 2011
In The Night Room
In the Night Room: A Novel by Peter Straub
My rating: 1 of 5 stars
Bizarre and fantastical tale of two writers caught up in supernatural events unfolding around them, involving ghosts, a wickedly rabid fiction fan, angels, and a spirit guide who communicated via email, mostly using 1337 5p34k. Which makes long passages of the book a headache to read if you, like me, hate that kind of thing.
I didn't enjoy this book. It was just odd, and for me to say that says a lot, being a chick who loves horror, dystopia and sci-fi, but the story line seemed contrived and self-serving, and half seemed to be a nod promoting Straub's earlier book (Lost Boy Lost Girl) which is mentioned often enough in the text that I considered starting a drinking game around it's mention.
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My rating: 1 of 5 stars
Bizarre and fantastical tale of two writers caught up in supernatural events unfolding around them, involving ghosts, a wickedly rabid fiction fan, angels, and a spirit guide who communicated via email, mostly using 1337 5p34k. Which makes long passages of the book a headache to read if you, like me, hate that kind of thing.
I didn't enjoy this book. It was just odd, and for me to say that says a lot, being a chick who loves horror, dystopia and sci-fi, but the story line seemed contrived and self-serving, and half seemed to be a nod promoting Straub's earlier book (Lost Boy Lost Girl) which is mentioned often enough in the text that I considered starting a drinking game around it's mention.
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Monday, 5 September 2011
You'll Like It Here
You'll Like It Here by Ruth White
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Interesting YA take on aliens and dystopia.
The first chapter of the book seems oddly disconnected from the rest of the book. (Spoiler alert!) The author attempts to use the unreliable narrator technique and it falls flat, because it isn't that the narrator is unreliable, it's that she's outright lying to the reader and herself, is misrepresenting things in such a way that later it seems completely unconnected to her character. It's almost as though a different author wrote the first chapter (badly) and a more talented writer who understood the characters better took over from there.
After this initial speedbump, the book is a cute, fun read about a young alien girl and her family, struggling to survive after leaving the Earth of today for another dimension, where the government has been overthrown by big business, and a public kept in perpetual stupor works endless days for the reward of being put down at age 65. Oh yes, I yelled "Soylent Green is People!" the first time I saw the vacation 65 bus, I'll admit it. Anyone who is a fan of classic sci-fi will find familiar themes here, stolen from Brave New World, Farenheit 451, 1984 and other classics, reinterpreted for kids in an approachable format with likable characters.
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My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Interesting YA take on aliens and dystopia.
The first chapter of the book seems oddly disconnected from the rest of the book. (Spoiler alert!) The author attempts to use the unreliable narrator technique and it falls flat, because it isn't that the narrator is unreliable, it's that she's outright lying to the reader and herself, is misrepresenting things in such a way that later it seems completely unconnected to her character. It's almost as though a different author wrote the first chapter (badly) and a more talented writer who understood the characters better took over from there.
After this initial speedbump, the book is a cute, fun read about a young alien girl and her family, struggling to survive after leaving the Earth of today for another dimension, where the government has been overthrown by big business, and a public kept in perpetual stupor works endless days for the reward of being put down at age 65. Oh yes, I yelled "Soylent Green is People!" the first time I saw the vacation 65 bus, I'll admit it. Anyone who is a fan of classic sci-fi will find familiar themes here, stolen from Brave New World, Farenheit 451, 1984 and other classics, reinterpreted for kids in an approachable format with likable characters.
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Friday, 2 September 2011
The New Good Life: Living Better Than Ever in an Age of Less
The New Good Life: Living Better Than Ever in an Age of Less by John Robbins
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
I wish I could convince everyone I care about to read this wonderful, enlightening book.
What does living the "good life" mean to you? Is it an ever more abundant pile of "things" that fill our ever larger homes that we spend less and less time actually occupying? Is it a bigger pile of cash in your bank account or a fancier car or a boat that you barely get to use because of all the hours you have to work to pay for it?
John Robbins, born heir to the Baskin and Robbins ice cream fortune had it all as a child, right down to the ice-cream-cone shaped swimming pool, but he chose to turn his back on the fortune his family had made to pursue a different kind of good life, one centered around the relationships we make with other people, living harmoniously with the earth, and giving back to the world around us rather than relentless consumerism and pursuit of a transitory wealth that won't carry with us when we leave this earth, no matter how hard we cling to it.
This book examines the trade-offs we make in our lives, from longer work days and dreary commutes to angry, violent children raised by a culture of television and convenience to an earth dying under the burden of too many people using industry to recklessly create too much garbage. How can we find real happiness, real contentment, among the rabble of today's more-more-more treadmill? When statistics show that once you rise above the poverty level, money does not increase your happiness (the richest tiny percent of Americans are no happier it seems that the simple-living Amish) how do you catch that elusive wish for a good life? Is it by having a family game night? Using green cleaners in your home? Offsetting your carbon footprint by trying to walk instead of ride, eat vegetables instead of meat?
For everyone there is a balance to achieve, and this book is about finding that balance in your own life. Peppered with anecdotes from his childhood and simple adult life as well as recipes for simple foods and green cleaning products, it's funny and useful and heartfelt. I appreciated the thought that went into this book, and the easy conversational style that makes it read like a chat with a good friend.
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My rating: 5 of 5 stars
I wish I could convince everyone I care about to read this wonderful, enlightening book.
What does living the "good life" mean to you? Is it an ever more abundant pile of "things" that fill our ever larger homes that we spend less and less time actually occupying? Is it a bigger pile of cash in your bank account or a fancier car or a boat that you barely get to use because of all the hours you have to work to pay for it?
John Robbins, born heir to the Baskin and Robbins ice cream fortune had it all as a child, right down to the ice-cream-cone shaped swimming pool, but he chose to turn his back on the fortune his family had made to pursue a different kind of good life, one centered around the relationships we make with other people, living harmoniously with the earth, and giving back to the world around us rather than relentless consumerism and pursuit of a transitory wealth that won't carry with us when we leave this earth, no matter how hard we cling to it.
This book examines the trade-offs we make in our lives, from longer work days and dreary commutes to angry, violent children raised by a culture of television and convenience to an earth dying under the burden of too many people using industry to recklessly create too much garbage. How can we find real happiness, real contentment, among the rabble of today's more-more-more treadmill? When statistics show that once you rise above the poverty level, money does not increase your happiness (the richest tiny percent of Americans are no happier it seems that the simple-living Amish) how do you catch that elusive wish for a good life? Is it by having a family game night? Using green cleaners in your home? Offsetting your carbon footprint by trying to walk instead of ride, eat vegetables instead of meat?
For everyone there is a balance to achieve, and this book is about finding that balance in your own life. Peppered with anecdotes from his childhood and simple adult life as well as recipes for simple foods and green cleaning products, it's funny and useful and heartfelt. I appreciated the thought that went into this book, and the easy conversational style that makes it read like a chat with a good friend.
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Thursday, 1 September 2011
Await Your Reply
Await Your Reply by Dan Chaon
My rating: 3 of 5 stars
I really wanted to love this book. The author is critcally acclaimed and this novel in particular is said to speak for our current age. The theme of identity and truth is one I've been exploring a lot in fiction this year, and I was looking forward to this one very much.
The truth was, though, that the beginning, which starts in three unconnected narratives, bored me. I kept putting down the book and picking up something else instead (I usually have four to six books going at any one time, and I have started *and* finished at least that many since I started this book). It didn't grip me. But I kept on plugging away because I was supposed to like it. And it would get better, right?
Well, in some places in this book the insight and style are breathtaking. In other places, there are long passages that seem disconnected and trite. In some places, I ached for the characters, and in others I rolled my eyes, because it seemed like the author was trying too hard. Overall, it took me a while to manage my way through, and while I was somewhat disappointed, it wasn't awful. I think in some ways I just set my expectations too high for this book.
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My rating: 3 of 5 stars
I really wanted to love this book. The author is critcally acclaimed and this novel in particular is said to speak for our current age. The theme of identity and truth is one I've been exploring a lot in fiction this year, and I was looking forward to this one very much.
The truth was, though, that the beginning, which starts in three unconnected narratives, bored me. I kept putting down the book and picking up something else instead (I usually have four to six books going at any one time, and I have started *and* finished at least that many since I started this book). It didn't grip me. But I kept on plugging away because I was supposed to like it. And it would get better, right?
Well, in some places in this book the insight and style are breathtaking. In other places, there are long passages that seem disconnected and trite. In some places, I ached for the characters, and in others I rolled my eyes, because it seemed like the author was trying too hard. Overall, it took me a while to manage my way through, and while I was somewhat disappointed, it wasn't awful. I think in some ways I just set my expectations too high for this book.
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Wednesday, 31 August 2011
The Unit
The Unit by Ninni Holmqvist
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
Remarkably stunning portrait of life in a society where certain groups of people are considered dispensible to the world at large, and are harvested like a field for whatever they can offer.
Dorrit is a writer. She lives alone in her small house with her dog Jock. She walks on the beach, and reads, and writes, and is having a torrid love affair with a married man. Her life isn't perfect, but it's hers and makes her happy. Unfortunately, she is also turning 50, and in her society when you turn 50 as a woman (or 60 as a man) and are childless and without an important or caretaking job you become dispensible.
You are transferred to a unit where you'll have no worries for the rest of your brief life. You're provided with an apartment and plenty of amenities, such as a full gym, shopping centers where you never have to pay, movie theaters and art galleries. There's a library to find reading materials, and if you're an artist or writer, you'll recieve a studio or computer to work on your craft.
Most of the people in The Unit remind me of me. They're writers and artists and librarians, ladies who worked in a shoe store all their lives who kept their nose stuck in a book, and men who quietly worked a full career while writing in their spare time, their hearts broken too much to fall in love. They are people I would want to hang out with, and people I could love. They're people I could be.
The crisp briskness of the prose is startling in places, but rather amazing to read. The author doesn't coddle the reader, but forces them to face the harsh realities that a society which focuses on only tangilble contributions can create. I often had to stop reading, my eyes full of tears, because I was so affected by this novel. One night in bed, after reading about how Dorrit's lover Nils refused to write an affadavit stating that she was loved (because he would have to leave his wife - who he didn't love - and that would mean his child would grow up in a single parent home) I sobbed to my husband, making him assure me that he would write such an affadavit, stating that his love for me meant I should be saved. Yes, it truly got into my head.
And in a good way, I think, because it highlights the inherent value of the people that society sometimes puts in a corner. I feel this way sometimes as I'm not raising a child right now. People don't, on meeting me, know that I once had a child, and therefore I seem somehow less to them, somehow not connected. I have seen it in their eyes; that sense that I don't understand their life, couldn't understand, that I just don't have what makes life worthwhile. I feel pushed to the edge of conversations, where I politely smile and hope for the conversation to turn from babysitters and diapers to books or movies or somewhere I can contribute. I want to scream that there is more to life, sometimes, that there is more to them, and to please connect with me. Occasionally I'll bring up an experience from my brief time with my daughter Grace, but often that is more painful than staying silent.
The problem with staying silent is that you validate that trap of being seen as less, that trap which might lead you into a Unit, yourself.
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My rating: 5 of 5 stars
Remarkably stunning portrait of life in a society where certain groups of people are considered dispensible to the world at large, and are harvested like a field for whatever they can offer.
Dorrit is a writer. She lives alone in her small house with her dog Jock. She walks on the beach, and reads, and writes, and is having a torrid love affair with a married man. Her life isn't perfect, but it's hers and makes her happy. Unfortunately, she is also turning 50, and in her society when you turn 50 as a woman (or 60 as a man) and are childless and without an important or caretaking job you become dispensible.
You are transferred to a unit where you'll have no worries for the rest of your brief life. You're provided with an apartment and plenty of amenities, such as a full gym, shopping centers where you never have to pay, movie theaters and art galleries. There's a library to find reading materials, and if you're an artist or writer, you'll recieve a studio or computer to work on your craft.
Most of the people in The Unit remind me of me. They're writers and artists and librarians, ladies who worked in a shoe store all their lives who kept their nose stuck in a book, and men who quietly worked a full career while writing in their spare time, their hearts broken too much to fall in love. They are people I would want to hang out with, and people I could love. They're people I could be.
The crisp briskness of the prose is startling in places, but rather amazing to read. The author doesn't coddle the reader, but forces them to face the harsh realities that a society which focuses on only tangilble contributions can create. I often had to stop reading, my eyes full of tears, because I was so affected by this novel. One night in bed, after reading about how Dorrit's lover Nils refused to write an affadavit stating that she was loved (because he would have to leave his wife - who he didn't love - and that would mean his child would grow up in a single parent home) I sobbed to my husband, making him assure me that he would write such an affadavit, stating that his love for me meant I should be saved. Yes, it truly got into my head.
And in a good way, I think, because it highlights the inherent value of the people that society sometimes puts in a corner. I feel this way sometimes as I'm not raising a child right now. People don't, on meeting me, know that I once had a child, and therefore I seem somehow less to them, somehow not connected. I have seen it in their eyes; that sense that I don't understand their life, couldn't understand, that I just don't have what makes life worthwhile. I feel pushed to the edge of conversations, where I politely smile and hope for the conversation to turn from babysitters and diapers to books or movies or somewhere I can contribute. I want to scream that there is more to life, sometimes, that there is more to them, and to please connect with me. Occasionally I'll bring up an experience from my brief time with my daughter Grace, but often that is more painful than staying silent.
The problem with staying silent is that you validate that trap of being seen as less, that trap which might lead you into a Unit, yourself.
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